What Every Cheater Could Learn From Jay-Z


Jay-Z has been relatively quiet with reference to his “alleged” extramarital affairs. Until now. According to various websites including Bossip.com, Jigga speaks, through his music, about his fear of almost losing his family, his arrogance regarding his disceptive behavior and what Beyonce means to him. He is being accountable for being a fucked up husband […]

The Impropriety Of Black Manhood: Men With Mommy Issues

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Black manhood is often discussed but never quite broken down into terms in which everyone can relate. It, also,  seems accountability and responsibility have become obsolete in many relationships as well as far as men are concerned. While the world has, thoroughly,  examined women and their “Daddy” issues, no thought or attention has been given […]

Marriage And Infidelity Are Not My Portion But It’s Cool If It’s Yours

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My marriage was important to me. Operative word “was”. Many of you already know that I decided to, publicly, share the culmination of factors which ended our union. I’ve, openly,  expressed my feelings via my personal Facebook and have had open discussions.  I have been asked if my marriage could have been saved. That answer […]

If I Could Bring My Daddy Back, I Would Never Be Too Busy Again

Slipping My Daddy a kiss

Today, I was in the car clearing out my voicemails and I came across one from my Daddy on 11/4/2016. It was 34 seconds long. I had never listened to it.   I’ve had meltdowns for most of the day with some bouts of laughter.Yemi had a meltdown in school. She emailed me to tell […]

Negra’s Guide To Being A Better Husband


Being a husband, surely, has its difficulties but it seems the focus is on making black women better wives. There’s a wife school by some foolish chick and then there’s advice from a woman who can’t stay married. All in all, some shit is being neglected and I wouldn’t be a good Samaritan if I […]

I’s Married Nah. My Banal Existence Before I Met My Husband


Day before yesterday, I dropped a very heartfelt post about self-care. For the most part, sisters heard my sentiment loud and clear. One of my boos, Val,  shared the post on her Facebook page and a heated discussion ensued. I am married. It’s no secret. Apparently, a couple of women felt strongly about my post and […]

The High Road Is Overrated And Hell Is Hot

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Hell is hot. The earth is round and the high road is overrated. For years, black women have sucked up bullshit in the name of “having class” and being the better person. Who came up with this? I’ve watched women’s spirits dissipate from continuously enduring their significant other’s indiscretions. Many women believe that this is […]

5 Ways To Keep Your Sanity When You Aren’t Fond Of Your Spouse’s Family

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Family. We all have one. Everybody’s family has some varying degree of dysfunction. However, some families are worse than others. Like so fucked up that you should really be ashamed that it’s your family but because you love them or you don’t know any better- you aren’t. We, all, know at least one family who […]

Five Thot Songs For The Married Sisters

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Married sisters are often resigned to granny panties and housecoats after the kids are born. I’m here to tell you that there’s another life when the babies go to bed. Certain songs bring out my inner thot (keep in mind words like thot, hoe, slut, skeezer.. don’t bother me. I eat those shits for breakfast. I’m […]

Russell Wilson Proposes To Ciara: Top Five Reasons Why I Am Getting My Eternal Life

Russell Wilson and Ciara are getting married and I could not be happier for them.

Russell Wilson  proposed to Ciara and I am ecstatic about it. If you follow me on Instagram, you KNOW that I vigilantly observe and guard their Instagrams. I think they are adorable. Black love is winning. Needless to say, when I heard about their pending nuptials- there were five things about this proposal that gave […]