Yes! We Can Be Black, “Woke” And Not Agree And You Can Also Catch These Hands If You Try Me


If you haven’t noticed by now, “woke” is a semi new buzzword that black intellectuals are using. I think it replaced “conscious”. I know it’s shorter to type and to a writer- namely me, that’s all that matters. “Woke” isn’t a word which I utilize in my daily vernacular but then again millennials are using it enough for all of us.

There’s a growing consensus among a few folks in the black social justice circle that being “woke” requires that we agree. I’ve seen posts on Facebook like “if you aren’t for blah blah blah, you aren’t for black people.” It’s one of the major issues I have with people using that word. I’m not woke. I know history, I know my experiences, I know the people who I love and I know that black women are the sustentation of EVERYBODY’S struggle. We take the “l’s” so that other groups can feel uplifted and supported even at the cost of our own unity and sanity.

Black women, in all of our regal glory, have become the footstools of the “revolution” sent to do the henchmen’s job when other black women are deemed to be “problematic” because they disagree. I’ve seen this primarily when it comes to the discussion of transwomen (NOT transmen), discussions regarding self-proclaimed “feminists” and their infamous clapback word “mammy” and keyboard activists who’ve not applied their solutions to real life work.


I’m over it. Futile attempts to “drag folks” are wack because irl AND the way my “inner nigga” is set up- you’d get your ass beat being all rahrah and seeing how most of these types have never even seen the makings of a fight- they may wanna fall back just a little.  This isn’t a threat but typically old heads have been in the trenches, have paid their academic dues AND have actually used their hands. You see as much as I love us- some folks’ are killing it for me. At 42, I’m, profoundly,  aware that everybody’s struggle ain’t for me. I’m ok with that. I’m also ok with folks not agreeing with me. That’s life. State your truth and keep it pushing. Fight your fight. Disagreeing doesn’t make any one of us enemies, “phobic”, “toxic”  or ________ shaming”  any more than overused buzzwords make me buy the rigmarole.

Also, I’m a nonconformist from waaaaaaaay back so I really don’t care if I’m not giving warm and fuzzies around the room because of what I say. It is perfectly ok to fight for people and not agree with their ideals and again EVERY struggle isn’t your struggle.

It’s time to stop whining about people not sharing your opinions and if you are REALLY in it to do the work, DO THE DAMN WORK. Stop worrying about the words of others and this incessant need to “drag’  somebody for not having the same viewpoint. Because I can tell you firsthand that a real-life drag ain’t what you want.

Stay “Woke”!



K. Araújo, a native Detroiter, is a cross between Claire Huxtable, Rosie Pérez and Millie Jackson. Widow, professional dragger of filth and Mami to the dopest Ethiopian EVER, she is the Editor in Chief of “Negra With Tumbao” and a Staff Writer for “The Urban Twist”. Keka has been known to shake what her mama gave her, is the hell and high water, an expert salsera and cussologist with a penchant for the finer things in life and is and forever shall be- unapologetically black.

  • lkeke35

    Amen! We are, ironically, in full agreement on this!

    I’m a 45 yr. old black woman, whose been a nonconformist since birth. I’ve had many long years of practice shrugging off the sh*** other black people want me to do and care about, just because they do it and care about it. I still ain’t cooperation’ now.

    I’m bout sick of black people telling me I’m not black enuff because I don’t care about something they think is important, or petty stuff, like listening to music they don’t like, or watching a TV show, or reading certain kinds of books.

    One of the surest ways a black person can get on my spitlist is to say to me what “I should” do, like, say, watch, read, or listen to anything. I’ve always seen it as other black people trying to control what I do, because they’re having feelings.

    I’m gonna do what I wanna do, and guess what! I’ve put my time in and done my homework on the kind of person I want to be, so nobody gets to tell me how black I am.

  • Mary Burrell

    Maybe woke is overrated

  • Mary Burrell

    When you disagree and not become a sheep and have a herd mentality people want to police that person’s blackness. It’s true that we are not a monolith.

    • Girl, Yes! Gtfomfwtbs…. you haven’t done shit but write a status on Facebook… I’ve had ppl in my house..given shelter, time and money and resources… WHAT THE FUCK HAVE YOU DONE?

      Some young chick, who was popping off on a keyboard, got mad when I asked her for receipts…. She had none.. oh ok.. stfu talking to me.

      • Val

        Lol They always get mad when you ask them for receipts.

  • NonyaB????

    Negra branging fire with this habanero of a post! Just in time to heat up this cold Monday morning. ????

  • Epsilonicus

    I had a discussion with a local activist about how I don’t play the Twitter fingers game.