“You think you’re better than me!?”
These are the words, frequently, screamed by the fragile assholes who are losing an argument regarding their shortcomings. I’m sure that we’ve all heard these words at some point in our lives. Especially, if you’re active on social media. This statement/question has always amused me. How, exactly, should I respond? I won’t apologize for not being mediocre. I’m not even going to apologize for YOU being average as fuck in MY presence. This isn’t about being nice. Humility and recognizing that you are the shit do peacefully coexist. They do. My sister, our children, our parents and myself are living breathing testaments. We’ve surrounded ourselves with #blackexcellence. WE CHOOSE TO BE ENVELOPED IN EXCELLENCE.
On more than one occasion, those very words were said to me. Listen. I’m a fat, negra with a big mouth. I’m also exceptionally intelligent (been in gifted curricula for practically my entire academic career), pretty easy on the eyes and confident. There’s never been an obstacle that I couldn’t get around. In terms of goals, not even fear has hindered me from following my dreams. NOPE. My parents did a pretty amazing job of reinforcing how dope I am. This isn’t even about me though. This is about other people projecting THEIR failures. It’s also about people’s lack of self-esteem. Neither are my problems.
Real talk. People ask that question with the intention to humiliate you for thinking that you were indeed fucking great. How dare you? You better check my fresh, nigga.
Confident people NEVER ask that. It’s a stupid question. And by answering honestly, you are confirming what they already knew in the first place. You ARE better than them.
Basic people have basic thoughts and say basic shit. They half ass everything they do or don’t even make the attempt because BASIC. This isn’t so much about being better as it’s about taking your place on the totem pole of life. Some people are just meant to be beneath you. That’s not on you by the way. It’s the individual’s fault. I’m not talking privilege. I’m talking drive and action.
Parents, leaders, and teachers dupe children especially black children into not acknowledging their greatness because somehow it’s obnoxious and ill-mannered.
They say shit like, “That’s not nice.”
It’s imperative that we refrain from stifling our gifted children’s flame.We need to refocus our children’s thoughts so that they are ready to compete on an exemplary level and not just for participation. I mean who competes to JUST participate? I want to win. We should also prepare our children to lose properly. You don’t fall apart when shit doesn’t go your way. You collect yourself. Start over and kick ass. IN THAT ORDER.
So the next time you are asked or told, “Do you think you’re better than me?”
Hold your head high, look that person in the eyes and say; “Yes, I am. Thank you.”