Yes, I AM Better Than You. No, I’m Not Joking.

Better Than You

“You think you’re better than me!?”

These are the words, frequently, screamed by the fragile assholes who are losing an argument regarding their shortcomings. I’m sure that we’ve all heard these words at some point in our lives. Especially, if you’re active on social media. This statement/question has always amused me. How, exactly, should I respond? I won’t apologize for not being mediocre. I’m not even going to apologize for YOU being average as fuck in MY presence.  This isn’t about being nice. Humility and recognizing that you are the shit do peacefully coexist. They do. My sister, our children, our parents and myself are living breathing testaments. We’ve surrounded ourselves with #blackexcellence. WE CHOOSE TO BE ENVELOPED IN EXCELLENCE.

On more than one occasion, those very words were said to me. Listen. I’m a fat, negra with a big mouth. I’m also exceptionally intelligent (been in gifted curricula for practically my entire academic career), pretty easy on the eyes and confident. There’s never been an obstacle that I couldn’t get around. In terms of goals, not even fear has hindered me from following my dreams. NOPE. My parents did a pretty amazing job of reinforcing how dope I am. This isn’t even about me though. This is about other people projecting THEIR failures. It’s also about people’s lack of self-esteem. Neither are my problems.

Real talk. People ask that question with the intention to humiliate you for thinking that you were indeed fucking great. How dare you? You better check my fresh, nigga.

Confident people NEVER ask that. It’s a stupid question. And by answering honestly, you are confirming what they already knew in the first place. You ARE better than them.

 

Im better than you

Basic people have basic thoughts and say basic shit. They half ass everything they do or don’t even make the attempt because BASIC. This isn’t so much about being better as it’s about taking your place on the totem pole of life. Some people are just meant to be beneath you. That’s not on you by the way. It’s the individual’s fault. I’m not talking privilege. I’m talking drive and action.

Parents, leaders, and teachers dupe children especially black children into not acknowledging their greatness because somehow it’s obnoxious and ill-mannered.

They say shit like, “That’s not nice.”  

It’s imperative that we refrain from stifling our gifted children’s flame.We need to refocus our children’s thoughts so that they are ready to compete on an exemplary level and not just for participation. I mean who competes to JUST participate? I want to win. We should also prepare our children to lose properly. You don’t fall apart when shit doesn’t go your way. You collect yourself. Start over and kick ass. IN THAT ORDER.

So the next time you are asked or told, “Do you think you’re better than me?”

Hold your head high, look that person in the eyes and say; “Yes, I am. Thank you.”

 

K.

 

 

 

 

K. Araújo, a native Detroiter, is a cross between Claire Huxtable, Rosie Pérez and Millie Jackson. Widow, professional dragger of filth and Mami to the dopest Ethiopian EVER, she is the Editor in Chief of "Negra With Tumbao" and a Staff Writer for "The Urban Twist". Keka has been known to shake what her mama gave her, is the hell and high water, an expert salsera and cussologist with a penchant for the finer things in life and is and forever shall be- unapologetically black.
  • lkeke35

    Great post! Hilarious too.
    My life motto is: Keep Moving Forward.
    I’ve spent my whole life trying to be a better human being. Trying to embody the best ideals, and then there are people like that, who don’t even bother trying to be their best self. (I’m going to be generous and say they don’t try, rather than they try and fail spectacularly at it, because that’s just too d*** sad.)

    They just happily go along with whatever small and petty thoughts pop into their brains, and then applaud themselves for it. What’s even worse, is when their petty s*** finally catches up with them, they have the nerve to be surprised!

    A smart person learns from other people’s mistakes. Dumb people can’t even learn from their own.

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  • Val

    “Basic people have basic thoughts and say basic shit.”

    That should be on t-shirts, coffee mugs, billboards, etc. because it’s so true and so apparent on the internet.

  • LaMonica Williams

    YAAAS SIS… Whenever anyone says ” You think you better than me?”…My practiced and frequently used response is ..”Bitch..I’m better than you..I’m better than everyone in this entire cosmic fuckwad we call a universe, didn’t you get the memo?..Ohh Wait, probably not, you aren’t important enough to waste the time on” . You will NEVER make me downplay my greatness to appease your fragile insecure fragile sense of self.

    “No one can make you feel inferior, without your consent” -Eleanor Roosevelt

    In other words, when you say that, you already KNOW you are in the presence of something greater and feel small , and you are projecting it when you say that. I …. personally, have NEVER felt that way. I’m secure enough in myself to know that I am the best thing in every room I walk in . It may be my own delusion of grandeur. But it ain’t hurting you .

  • Anita Everette

    Oh yes!
    This is on target sister.