Nobody Loves A Fat Chick And Why Gabourey Sibide’s Clapback Was Epic

Gabourey Sibide slays the red carpet

Apparently, the fat chick can’t get any love. Let’s rephrase that… The fat chick SHOULDN’T get any love. This appears to be the sentiment after last Wednesday’s episode of “Empire” where Becky (portrayed by Gabourey Sibide) gets it in with a chocolate hottie before she has to go to work. I was giddy watching two chocolate folks swinging a sexy ass ep on a rooftop. Hell, I need some ideas. I have to keep this marriage fresh! Anyway, Facebook was in rare form (even rarer than normal if THAT can happen) afterwards. God forbid that Boo Boo Kitty’s light-skinned, cute slim ass can’t find a man and Becky has one… AND he, actually, WANTS to be there?   There was ALL types of shade being thrown at Gabourey Sibide and she responded with an epic clapback.

Fat Chick
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Facebook had me HOT! Do you hear me? On a friend’s page, some Chewbacca -looking ass clown had the audacity to call her a gorilla and said that she needed bananas instead of a man. Excuse me! I understand that people have personal preferences but there’s no way that I’M going to allow some ashy dick negro to call this sister a gorilla. Good day, sir.

Folks have the impression that fat people, plus-size, or whatever floats your boat are jovial, lazy and asexual. It’s completely ridiculous. It’s worse for women because at least fat guys get to be “Big Daddy” or a “Teddy Bear”.  For ladies, we are cute “for a big girl”  or “You’d be pretty if you lost weight.” Fuck outta here!

I remember going to “Floods Bar and Grille” in Detroit with my younger sister (who has always been naturally tall and lean) and a group of our friends. They’re ALL gorgeous by the way. This place is for the grown and sexy. It was super crowded this particular night and a group of brothers came in and stood next to us by the bar area. There was one brother in particular who was FINE. Like “WE ALL noticed him” FINE. Mini dresses and stilettos were the outfits of choice for most of the women in the bar but I kept it simple with a belted sweater dress and stiletto booties. Honey, this waist was SNATCHED and the girls were sitting. I kept my makeup simple with a smoky eye and glossy, nude lip. We were all making small talk by the bar and HE turned straight towards me and told me that I was gorgeous. In fact he said- “You’re the kind of pretty that a man would wife.”

His homeboy agreed. I, graciously, accepted his compliment and kept it moving.  I did notice that another crew of girls proceeded to eyeball me from head to toe AS IF I wasn’t deserving of his words or even worse that he was doing me a favor.

“Bitch please!”

Self-esteem is the ONE thing that I don’t lack. So whenever Ms. Gabourey claps back when she is attacked for her size, I get my ENTIRE life. When you’re confident and you feel good about yourself, what can anybody REALLY say to you that will matter? Absolutely NOTHING. People have a tendency to think that being big hinders you. I have been a certified aerobics instructor since 1999. I can do planks, plyo squats and push-ups. I have taught at the best gyms in the country: Bally’s (RIP), LA Fitness, Gold’s Gym, CMI and other clubs as well.

Yes, I know that I am throwing the word “fat” around quite a bit. I need YOU to be comfortable with hearing it and saying it.  It’s always cute when someone calls you “fat” when you piss them off. That’s all you got? I’m fat? Really? Ok, Captain Obvious and my husband loves it. Now, sitcho single ass down somewhere! *cackling* I’m the pettiest.

Serve Big Girl! Photo courtesy of www.blogoflingerie.com Fat girl
Serve Big Girl! Photo courtesy of www.blogoflingerie.com

We aren’t just some creep’s fetish. Fat girls can be sexy, beautiful, thoughtful and smart and there are men who are attracted to that. We aren’t all suffering from low self-esteem nor do we, secretly, wish to be skinny. Fat girls are just as worthy and capable of being lovers, bae, and wives as the next chick. Some of us are great at it. *insert devilish grin* “Empire” got it right last Wednesday night and I was there for it. Please understand that this isn’t an “us” vs. “skinny chicks”. This is more of a public service announcement just in case y’all didn’t know.

 “Don’t get it twisted. boo. I’m the shit.”

You’re welcome!

*Besos*

K.

K. Araújo, a native Detroiter, is a cross between Claire Huxtable, Rosie Pérez and Millie Jackson. Widow, professional dragger of filth and Mami to the dopest Ethiopian EVER, she is the Editor in Chief of "Negra With Tumbao" and a Staff Writer for "The Urban Twist". Keka has been known to shake what her mama gave her, is the hell and high water, an expert salsera and cussologist with a penchant for the finer things in life and is and forever shall be- unapologetically black.
  • Freeman Burns

    Awesome blog sis! I love a woman with some curves. I enjoy a woman who isn’t scared of a few lb’s. More for me to explore. Your writing style is straight Detroit. Love it!

    • Thank you, bro!! There are brothers that rock with us and they know what it is! 🙂

  • Elaine Fisher

    There are plenty of good looking brothers that love sisters with like us.And they don’t think we are fat.

    • This is the thing…. Even if they think we are fat.. so what. Fat isn’t a bad word.. It is what it is. Saying things like fluffy, plus size..etc.. gives the impression that there should be shame for being fat. Own IT and STILL BE FAB!

  • Esther

    You are beautiful, you are not fat nature just overdid itself. Stay beautiful. Love the blog

  • While I truly empathize with the plight of the “fat girl”, because a lot of what you are saying is true, I must disagree that fat guys ( not stocky, thick, or somewhat overweight guys) have it easier than their female counterparts. The fat man gets NO LOVE. Women of all sizes from the smallest to the largest will not hesitate to shoot him down in a heartbeat. Fat women may complain about the type of attention they get, but imagine how they would feel, if they got NONE AT ALL. Then on top of that, image them still being placed in the position of being the pursuer in the cat and mouse game of male/female relationships. Hell, are so used to some level of attention that many count attention from those that don’t meet their “standard” as a nuisance, instead of an opportunity. Fat men are viewed as less sexually capable, less attractive, less of a protector, the list goes on and on ( no matter how accomplished, educated, or well off he is). Fat women are often fetishized by men, but even in thise situations, they are being approached, and a LOT of those guys are actually interested. The fat man gets NONE of that.

    • Thank you for your input. I was not including fetishes because that has nothing to do with what I’m talking about. I KNOW fat brothers thatg get girls.. No tricking. Like these girls LOVE them.. We can even look at the entertainment industry: Biggie, Rick Ross, Dj Khaled, Heavy D… the list can go on… these men had women ALL over them.

  • This article is great. I am about to watch this episode, but I’ve been hearing about this scene since it aired. I loved that Gabby didn’t cower, and she did the scene in spite of the ignorance that people portray when she is on screen. I’m happy that the act wasn’t just suggested, and they are portrayed as being in love. Most of the plus size women I know have no problem getting, or keeping, a man; they exude an amazing confidence. They walk, talk, and live in pure beauty and it’s undeniable to a lot of men.

  • The comment that you gave about your more reserved outfit of choice and being approached at the club reminds me of times (well the few times I’ve gone out with friends-lol). I can’t say I’m thin or fat (but about 10 pounds overweight) but I got compliments by men in part due to being modestly (though trendily;-) dressed. Ive suprisingly heard men actually say, you look better than the women around here with half their clothes off, etc. .I think women so often think they have to expose their breasts or cleavage or overly emphasize other body parts to get attention especially in certain places, that I think men like in the example you mentioned,appreciate when an attractive woman of any size exudes a bit more class in appearance (and behavior of course but since we are talking about aesthetics…). Good article.

    • Thank you! It, absolutely, makes a difference. A beautiful woman is a beautiful woman.