I Am A “Problematic” Black Girl

Problematic

Being “problematic” isn’t a title which many people would bear with pride. It’s not even a label I necessarily want. But it is a label which I’ve been called a few times. I say things with which many folks agree. I, also, say a plethora of things people abhor. I base my opinions from personal […]

Even The Mighty Get Weary: My Battle With Depression

depression

Major depression and factors associated with depression were more frequent among members of minority groups than among Whites. *Source https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1199525/ * This past year has been tremendously difficult. An extraordinarily arduous time for me (and my family) due to untimely, soul-wrenching deaths  ( my stepfather, followed by my Daddy and now my grandmother) and the termination of my marriage. *Read about it here*  […]

Finding Intersectionality When You Are Self-Centered And Fresh Out Of Fux

intersectionality

“Intersectionality”- a term coined by Kimberlé Crenshaw, a black legal scholar, in 1989 seems to be heading up the black feminist movement these days. I can’t say that I am a feminist so much as a me-ist (if that’s a word). In my 42 years of living on this planet, I’ve learned that black women are only as […]

Yes, I AM Better Than You. No, I’m Not Joking.

Better Than You

“You think you’re better than me!?” These are the words, frequently, screamed by the fragile assholes who are losing an argument regarding their shortcomings. I’m sure that we’ve all heard these words at some point in our lives. Especially, if you’re active on social media. This statement/question has always amused me. How, exactly, should I respond? […]

Open Letter to Malia Obama: Get Lit

Malia Obama

Newsflash. Malia Obama smokes weed. *fast blink* That’s not the story though. We know that President Obama used to “puff, puff, pass”. We know that he knows that she knows that he knows that she smokes weed. The Secret Service follows her wherever she goes. Even to Lollapalooza. Duh. An 18-year old Harvard bound black […]

The Bougie Black Girl’s Guide To Cooking

Hello friends. I have just discovered that I’m a bougie (bourgeois for my educated fam) black girl as it relates to cooking. Food has been a major topic in these Facebook streets as of late. I won’t even touch on the salt vs. sugar debate for grits. Y’all have worn that out. However, I have some […]

Lemonade: The Black Woman’s Guide To Understanding What You Saw

Lemonade

Lemonade. Ms. Hattie (Jay Z’s 90 years old grandmother and my paternal grandmother’s name) said, “When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade.” Truth. Black women have been making lemonade since the beginning of time. This will be about our history, our resilience, our pain, our anger and our strength. Out of the ashes, the […]

Negra With Tumbao Celebrates Its One Year Blogiversary

Negra With Tumbao

Negra With Tumbao celebrates its one year blogiversary. Yesterday, my second baby turned one. I thought about celebrating and doing something huge and outrageous to commemorate the event but pomp and circumstance isn’t me. When I launched my blog last year, I needed a space to express my sadness, my triumphs, my anger and my love […]

Russell Wilson Proposes To Ciara: Top Five Reasons Why I Am Getting My Eternal Life

Russell Wilson and Ciara are getting married and I could not be happier for them.

Russell Wilson  proposed to Ciara and I am ecstatic about it. If you follow me on Instagram, you KNOW that I vigilantly observe and guard their Instagrams. I think they are adorable. Black love is winning. Needless to say, when I heard about their pending nuptials- there were five things about this proposal that gave […]

Taking Care of Me First And What That Really Means

Do me right Facebook!!

Taking care of me is something that I had forgotten how to do. I am a wife and mother and I’m extremely proud to hold those titles. However, I was someone before I became Mrs. Negra With Tumbao and Mami With Tumbao. I was jazzy and extravagant. I took time to enjoy life and to […]