Open Letter To My Husband And His Mistress On His Birthday

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Happy 43rd Birthday, Babe! I hope you enjoyed your date. You had to have been looking forward to the weekend. I mean your boo got her hair done and shit. Although, she doesn’t quite get her cejas together like I like but we all have something, right? I am sure she’s a great person. She fucks married men for Christ’s sake.  Oh and before I forget- Happy Birthday, Tina! Your dress was cute. Cheap….but cute. But I digress. This is, totally, NOT about her.

Happy Birthday, Guys! March 10th and March 11th! <3 Oh and the sister that was the problem likes the photo with the chilla! LMAO

Anyway, I didn’t want to interrupt your good time so I waited until now to publish this. You see- even though you are a piece of shit, I am still the dutiful wife  until the very end. Papito, I KNOW that you need a minute to digest that this is REALLY happening. Babe, this shit is is going down RIGHT NOW.  I’ll give you a few seconds to pick your face up.  1…..2…..3….FUCK OUTTA HERE.

*EDIT*

*I did the honors of approving her tags of you two on your Facebook timeline to ensure that the world would see your new love*

You left them sitting there. That was an oversight, right? *cackling*

You couldn’t tell her NOT to post them but I KNOW that you didn’t want them on YOUR page because after all- “you didn’t have a girlfriend.”

I was helping you live in “your truth”.

Bruh, you look a little nervous in that photo. Were you good? I know how you smile in photos and you weren’t really smiling. But again- your smile isn’t what this is about. I apologize. I am wasting time here. Let me get to the point.

You probably figured that I wouldn’t speak about this publicly because I’d be embarrassed. NOPE. Not even. In fact, this isn’t for you so much as I know there’s a sister out there who is falling apart over her ain’t shit husband and begging for her family to stay together. I’m lying, my nigga. THIS IS , totally,  about you as well but I might as well empower some sisters while giving you my ENTIRE ass to kiss.

*Back to you, girl* Chiiiiile, you better make a clean getaway. You will be alright. If you have daughters, you are doing them a huge disservice by staying. We didn’t sign up for this shit. Bueno, I know I didn’t. It was odd that so many of the women I spoke with, thought that I should fight for this fool. Biiiiiiiiiiih, the way my #innernigga is set up. There’s no way that you could fuck first and ask questions later. I AM DITCHING THIS PAYASO AND NOT LOOKING BACK.

I loved you and I was a good wife to you. Fuck that! I was a great wife to you even when you were a mediocre husband. Dios mio! I resigned myself to your punk ass not handling your family as you should have. That was a red flag and because I am a fighter, I took that burden on although folks tried to talk me out of marrying you. What did I know? You were my dude.

Then, you stopped adulting. Like legit stopped taking care of your family and got in your feelings because I said I wasn’t having it. You’re a grown ass man. Bitch, you need to work. I mean you will never be great but shit- be something! I mean our sex life was amazing but you ain’t earning a living off the d. Not here anyway. That tender ass male ego reared its ugly ass head again. You stayed worried about men who I didn’t even talk to anymore. You damn near rolled on the floor throwing a temper tantrum when I told you Dave (my ex) was one of the top 5 most important men in my life. I mean you did at least make the list…albeit you were #5.   Tsk tsk tsk.

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As you know, these past 6 months have been extremely difficult for Yemi and me. First, we lost Pedro (my stepdad) in September and then at the end of January, Daddy died. Emotionally, we were already struggling but my dad’s death compounded the suffering. I’m still devastated and it is taking everything inside of me to be functional. And my “husband” was nowhere to be found.  In fact, while we were grieving- you started getting cozy with this broad and we saw you TWO TIMES. The day you to took us to the airport to go to Detroit to bury my father and when we came back on February 3rd. Your bitch ass even had a date the very next day.

Oh and for the record- my Dad hated you and I didn’t know it. His best friend told me a few days ago. He didn’t think that you were good enough for me and he didn’t think that you deserved Yemi.

Who the fuck raised you? I mean only a narcissistic sociopath starts an affair when his wife’s father dies. You were intentionally trying to hurt me. Well ain’t that fucking rich?

You and The Birthday Girl became “official” on Valentine’s Day  (at least according to her). Ay- que lindo! Then, you became Facebook friends. You changed your status to “separated” 2 days before you became her friend. I guess if you are going to be a cheating sack of shit, you’d better look half way official.

Needless to say when I received the screenshot of our “separation”, I was flabbergasted. Like how do you separate from your spouse without a conversation? Not one word. You did this slyly though. And my family watched. You did ask, “Who was I fucking?” and you tried to chastise me about the clothes I was wearing. All while reminding me that I was married. You even gave me sweet little kisses with an ass rub when you left. I played along waiting for this day. I have been holding this shit in for weeks. Woooooooooooooooooooooooooo, my nigga! I’m free! HAHAHA!

I had been falling apart all week because it was approaching the one month anniversary of Daddy’s death. The day I found out you were cheating was February 21. I was bawling and I heard Daddy’s voice and smelled him. He said, “Fuck that nigga and you better not cry! “

Even in death, my Daddy had my back. Instantly, the tears dried. And I haven’t cried for you or the end of our marriage once. I would probably have an orgasm if I could punch you in the face just one good time. Then, I saw you sending well wishes to her  kid while you stood your own up 4 times while she’s grieving? YOU HAVE ME FUCKED UP, SIR. Not to be like- Fuck those kids…..but FUCK THOSE KIDS.

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February 22, 2017 at Ale House with the brothers-in-law and my husband. This is how he smiles and I was cool as fuck. I could have ran him over with my BMW. Bitch ass. Petty wins again. And look at those cejas.. Yaaaaas WORK!

So fast forward to this past Tuesday when you came to visit. Again, I don’t wanna ruin your birthday. *sneaky smile* Of course, I want to ruin your birthday.  I asked you, directly, did you have a girlfriend and you LIED. Your daughter asked you. YOU LIED.  You’re lying to everybody about this girl. She’s only your boo at Janette’s? Well, that must suck.  But for why though? We’re done. I know that you like to keep options open but all we needed was a conversation. You are so messy. But you wouldn’t be Albert without mess.

And you and Tuna seem to be a match made in heaven and she’s talking babies ALREADY.. Y’all just started fucking around but she’s doing the absolute most. She’s a little off. That’s weird as fuck but mmmkaaaaay. Good luck with that!

Birthday boy!
Ayyyyy que lindo! She loves you!

She hasn’t learned you yet.  I mean she IS only getting a shell of the man you used to be. You’ve lost so much weight, your skin looks like shit and you drink too much. That, ALWAYS, happens when you are around your play sister. She, literally, sucks out your lifeforce. But hey- that’s not my portion. Let the church say “Amen.”

Oh, have you shown her how insecure you are? I know you swore I slept with every guy friend I had on Facebook. If you haven’t, you will soon. You’re a fuck up.  And from those goofy ass memes she keeps posting, I assume that you told her that I was always begging for your money. Everybody knows I’m a hustler de verdad. If she’s heard anything else, we both know it’s a lie. Oh and you don’t want the world to think that you’re a deadbeat on top of being a shitty ass husband and man, do you? I do expect you to run those coins for our daughter. I mean you DO have a fresh pair of J’s my nigga!

I’m the true definition of bad and bourgeois. Bad and bougee for the high school dropouts.

They say death comes in 3’s. I’m officially a widow because you’re dead to me.

You, two, have a blessed and prosperous day! Oh and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

 

Signed,

Dragger of Filth formerly known as Your Wife.

K. Araújo, a native Detroiter, is a cross between Claire Huxtable, Rosie Pérez and Millie Jackson. Widow, professional dragger of filth and Mami to the dopest Ethiopian EVER, she is the Editor in Chief of “Negra With Tumbao” and a Staff Writer for “The Urban Twist”. Keka has been known to shake what her mama gave her, is the hell and high water, an expert salsera and cussologist and is and forever shall be- unapologetically black.

  • Elaine Perez-Rojas

    I went through this exact thing and I wish I had the wherewithal to handle it this way.
    Mejor sola que mal acompañada
    ❤️

    • SilkOne

      You said it right there — better alone than in bad company. Truth!!

  • Denene Millner

    ❤❤❤ When a woman’s fed up…

  • SummerSoulstice

    I saw this and had to re-read it a few times to make sure this wasn’t a joke. I covered my agape mouth as I read, just as if a best friend was telling me these details over the phone. I “met” you through VSB and subscribed to your blog a while ago. I loved your writing, your comments, your wit, your Take-NO-Shorts attitude, your fierceness…I am SO sorry you and your daughter are going through this. I am also truly sorry for the recent loss of the REAL men in your life. I know you’re going to be alright but I still wish for a salve for your heart & comfort for your mind. Peace be with you, my friend in my head…

    • This just made me cry!!! Listen, sis..I’m good. And we can be friends..I need an army of bangers. ❤❤

      Thank you!!

      • Mackenzie Madison Persaud

        Did he see the open letter? This made my day, you rock

        • Hell yeah! He saw it! AND he still follows my blog page on Facebook…Go figure!

      • 🗣Baddiebeymyfav😻💁🏽💅🏽🐝🤑😁😘💃🏽👑

        So sorry about the lost of your father. You are a strong women and will pull through this difficult time. Keep your head up and keep smiling. When that KARMA hits your no good husband and his tacky side peace, you’ll be the one shining bright like a diamond. Remain stress free and bless!🙏🏼

  • Kristen M. Muldrow

    He is truly is a bitch ass nigga. And planning a baby? What kind of funkbox has 3 kids already and is planning a baby with her married boyfriend?

    They can both burn.

    • Truly!!!

      This post was burning a hole through me.

    • SilkOne

      And can’t afford nonadem…my husband’s side chick has 5. *rolling my eyes*

      • LiveLoveMusicMe

        Wait, your husband has a side chick and that’s cool? Are y’all poly?

        • SilkOne

          Ha! I wouldn’t f*ck him with someone else’s p*ssy. The divorce is nearly final, luv.

          • LiveLoveMusicMe

            Do ya thang sis. Good on you! My friend told me that most women ASSUME men have side chicks. I said if that’s what we are doing I’ll stay single. Poly is one thing but letting him cheat is just not my ministry.

          • Rosshetere Freeny

            I agree it’s like women are enabling men, always making the comment a man gon be a man. Cheating is not being a man. Keeping it real is. A real man is going to keep it real no matter what.

        • PinkRose

          Reading ain’t that fundamental for you huh, bruh?

          • Kas loves Jamaican Breakfast

            Look who dropped through kick azz since she didn’t have paper or pencil.

          • LiveLoveMusicMe

            You clearly seem incapable of it. I won’t cut you down, it’s not my style, but I would recommend you reconsider your approach.

      • NIGGA! 5 kids. Biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiitch! lmao

    • Jessica Humphrey

      I’m ded at “Funkbox” lol

    • LaMonica Williams

      She’s not a “Funkbox”…She’s what I call…a “Cum Dump”

  • Andrea Roberts

    Babeee!!! And he better know this. The thing about the Internet, does go anywhere and you better ask for forgiveness from Mother Earth and all that has faith because Karma does give 2 fucks and a duck about how you will be served; just take it in the face. Xoxo love

  • NonyaB🎯

    {{{Hugs NWT tight for 5 good minutes}}}

    I’m so shook/pîssed-the-FXCK-off on your behalf. Mad I’m not in your area so I can’t roll out with you to cuss out those who need it but I’ma cuss from here and add to the pile making their ears sting by now. Sorry you’re going through this much all at once!

  • Mayra de los Santos

    You are amazing! My spirit animal

  • Tarana Burke

    You know I bang for you mama. Hugs to you and lil mama. <3

  • LaSargenta

    Damn. This is the BEST.

    Y las cejas? También las mejores.

  • Mandy

    See I’m having a bad man day and this is fucking my head up. I seriously want to drive up to the D and plow him and that cheap lookin broad down.

    • We are in Florida..lol

      • Garland Lifeafterdebt

        I am not one to throw stones in a glass house but this is trifling. As if as black men, we aren’t compounded and attacked by external factors and hear this flagrant coward is even man enough to declare it’s over. I apologize for your father not having the courage to tell you how he really felt about this trash ass ninja! May you learn, forgive and love again but in the meantime take this advice…ASSUME EVERYTHING COMING OUT OF A NINJA MOUTH IS BULLSHIT, that way he can truly prove you wrong.

        Peace my good sister…

        • Let’s not get it twisted… my father expressed himself and I did what I wanted.

      • Kitty

        I’m in Georgia if you need me hit me up I’ll take a ride idgaf

  • Jennifer Thomas

    Did I ention fuck ’em?

    Welll………one more time for the people n the back……

    FUCK ‘EM!!!!!!

  • Sarah Calhoun

    Daaaaaamn! I’m so glad you let that fool go without reservation! You deserve way better. Best of luck to you sista. I’m sorry about your dad <3

  • Ericka Fields

    Hey, does anyone want to dress in black and go bust out ol’ boy’s car windows cuz I’m down😏!!!

  • HouseOfBonnets

    So……. You wanna go smooth Bernadette? I mean I’ll drive the getaway car.

    Also it sucks that thus happened to you and it’s definitely his loss. *sends big mama hugs*

  • Malcom Flex

    Sorry sis. Too many black males are totally mentally ill full stop. And the fact that even IF every BM was “good” there’d still be 1.5 million BW without a BM. What goes around comes around he’s a bum and a loser and he won’t be living a long happy life.

  • So…..damn.

  • Tameka Jackson-Smith

    This gave me so much life I am going to be reincarnated as a feline! I have been in this place- only it was my sister dying instead of my father when I found out about the mistress AND the bastard she was carrying. Reading this brought it all back and made me really, truly appreciate how far I’ve come since that day. My life has been a series of blessings since I dropped that lying, cheating SOS- while he has crashed & burned. I know you & babygirl will be better than fine, but I doubt the same can be said for him. Karma is a beautiful thing to view from the sidelines😀
    P.S.- Jeff should’ve introduced us a long time ago!

  • Regine Watson

    If one ever wonders where a broken heart ought to go its simply on….just on and on, thats what I got from your very strong piece!
    You and your love, well dammit that fool was just not worthy of such royal love…. Great on you for being able to go on and on
    Continued blessings to you and yours!

  • Roberta

    When will dudes ever learn to be less messy with their spouse (and kids), I mean this is the person you took vows with that’s basically took an oath to be the corner for you no matter what. It’s not going to hurt any less lying so just man up and tell the truth, at least you can leave with respect..as I’ve learned you can’t turn a coward brave though no matter how many glimmers of it you see. Saying prayers as you mourn several deaths…

    • This… like we could’ve been cool. Iv wasn’t even trying to be with him… just stop lying nigga.

  • Naadirah Coleman-Wright

    Now this was a read to filth if I ever saw one! Good for you for having the strength to do what needed to be done for you and your child.

  • Brooklyn Chef Danielle

    You are my She-ro….. You are GUCCI and wikl forever be. You are my friend. Don’t protest. WE’RE FRIENDS 😅😅😅😅

  • SassyMdgirl

    This is THE BEST thing that I’ve read all day and I am totally here for this Queen Petty post. As the newest initiate into #PettyNation please know that we all want to fight him for you. We are all here for all of this and anyone who isn’t give them a quick hair flip and middle finger because this was SO NECESSARY. Keep healing and pressing forward Sis. You are enough and deserve so much better. Oh and let us know if you’re down for busting out windows and flattening tires… because… Karma… And he deserves that shyt!

  • Rhonda Spoonz Mcnickles

    BABEEEEE…. THAT’S HOW YOU HANDLE FUCK BOI SHIT! HAVE ALL YOUR DUCKS IN ORDER, DOT YOUR Is AND CROSS YOUR Ts!!! PACKAGE THAT SHIT UP AND MAKE YOUR DELIVERY! No need to explain because I’m not looking for an explanation on a situation that speaks for itself!!!! Some broads are sooooooooooo overjoyed with hand me downs and that’s because they’re use to having nothing but shit!!!!
    #YouAreBeyondSavage
    #ILuvUMySistar

  • Detroit Skater

    i love your #innernigga.❤ your smile in the pic screams i am so good just waiting out my days. continued prayers for you and your daughter as you grieve your dads. high five on this letter on his birthday and it trended. forget the high five girl i’m giving a grandma hug for that {{grandma hug}}. stayed bleessed and at peace.

    #ThisHowDetroitThugsDoIt

  • Tomekia T Dunkley

    Reading your words sis he never deserved you and God removed that cancer before it spread and killed what was left of your beautiful spirit…..Victory will be yours and love too….the right man will come along and give you everything you deserve and things you didn’t even know u needed

  • Tiffany Austin

    Like this is the shit you get your girl a bottle of wine for and you drink and cry and start to heal a little. I am so sorry you and your daughter had to deal with so much loss. Thank you for sharing this so someone else has the strength to go! Thank you for being the woman that you are and raising a daughter who can see herself in you❤❤❤

    • Thank you.. if I had a bottle of wine, I would throw it at his fucking head.

  • Cleojonz

    Wow! Just wow! I’m so sorry you have suffered loss upon loss this way. I know in my heart of hearts you will be ok but you didn’t deserve this. You still have a whole lot of life to live so I am proud that you have the strength to cut your losses and get ready for that next phase. You got a lot of folks in you corner!

  • nubian_goddess

    You are the truth serum for his ass!! I lost my mom in September of 16 so I KNOW that pain. I feel her strength wrap itself around me all the time so I know you’ll be alright. They however, can only live in fantasy for so long before reality bitch slaps the both of them. He’s a waste of molecules and lil ma needs to drink some self esteem. But he’s HER problem now. Let’s celebrate that!! My heart is with you honey on the loss of those two great men, AND celebrates the loss of the little boy you married.

  • Monica Carter

    Well damn

  • Stephanie SpitFire-Librarian F

    His loss, your gain. Peace and love to you and your baby girl!

  • stephanie atkinson

    You are an inspiration to me and I’m glad you and your baby dodged that bullet! Let her have that deadbeat

  • Lindsey Greene

    I am so sorry about the loss of your Dad and that you were emotionally abandoned during your time of need. 🙁 Your daughter is lucky to have such a strong Mom and she’s going to be okay, thanks to you. Your Daddy did a great job (not that you needed me to say that)!

  • Dwayne Jeffers

    Well married fellas if you can find new love via social media. Your wife can blast you via social media. If a married person leave their spouse for you, one day the tables will turn on you. Just something to think about while you are having fun with the married person.

  • SilkOne

    Dis shi*t right here all day long!! These chicks can’t seem to keep their triflin’ off facebook!

    “You’re a fuck up. And from those goofy ass memes she keeps posting, I assume that you told her that I was always begging for your money. Everybody knows I’m a hustler de verdad. If she’s heard anything else, we both know it’s a lie. Oh and you don’t want the world to think that you’re a deadbeat on top of being a shitty ass husband and man, do you? I do expect you to run those coins for our daughter. I mean you DO have a fresh pair of J’s my nigga!”

    Just pay me on time and we’ll be aiight…no good mfs….

  • PhlyyPhree

    Ohhhhh mama.
    First and foremost, I am here for th complete airing out on front street. I’ve never been the one to suffer in silence when the fuck up belongs to someone else.
    I hate this for you. I hate that you’ve had to experience this and endure this for these months. I’d wondered where you were because I didn’t see you over on vsb but I’m sorry that this is why.
    Sending you lots of love and laughter and just FYI, I have lots of aggression to misplace if you ever need someone to ride down on folks with you.

    • I have something grander than a ride down planned. Lol

      Believe that…

      • Kas loves Jamaican Breakfast

        Yo sis, the VSB comment section has your back. Not telling you anything new, but fukc that funky azz excuse for a man.

  • Kaia

    I found this when a friend posted to facebook. I hope more women see it, and read how a woman keeps her head high, sets standards, and handles her business.
    Not long ago my last dude’s ex decided she wanted him back. She came at me allllll the way sideways saying how I was keeping a father from his daughter (I wasn’t, she took the kid 2500 miles away) and I needed to let them try to work it out (ugh) but if I wanted to keep him that she and I should be friends since I’d be helping to raise her child (bitch, what?). I don’t do messiness, I don’t raise other people’s babies, and and I didn’t sign on to be a sisterwife. So I gathered my things and walked away without a glance back. Now ol’ dude and his bum bitch are stuck with each other, remembering why they broke up in the first place, and I sold his valentine’ s day gift to decorate the house i’m buying without him.
    I can’t wait to read more of your blog to be further inspired by your humor, honestly, and integrity. Blessings and good energy to you and your family as you move into this next stage of your life.

  • Quirlygirly

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    I’m sorry this happened to you but I am glad you are not hiding in embarrassment or shame. The shame belongs to him.

    Hold ya head up Ma. Some people don’t realize when they gave a good thing and thus don’t deserve to have it.

  • Jasmine Rose

    This is really random…but is your man a Pisces? When you said he complains about money and accuses you of messing with other men, they sound like the traits of a Pisces man. Or, at least another water sign: Scorpio or Cancer…. So sad this happened to you though. I pray you find peace in your situation. Here is a quote I made up and live by, especially when it comes to love and relationships: “Friends, Lovers, and Family Are Just Extras In Your Movie. The Leading Role Belongs To You, So Act Out Your Character With Self-Regard, Self-Love, and Self-Confidence. And Let The Extras Stay In The Background Where They Belong.”

    • He is.. they’re notorious for being extra fragile..lol

      • Kitty

        Oh damn he’s a Pisces my ex is a Pisces. Bunch of whiny asses never want to be accountable for the shit they do. It’s always someone else’s fault. He going to come crawling back he’s gonna realize the grass ain’t greener just crazier. He’s gonna come with some excuse . They usually go for the women that ain’t got shit going for themselves. It’s called the captain save a hoe syndrome. When in reality is he is intimidated by your strength and independence.
        Been there done that bought the tee shirt and burned that shit up.

        • Hahahahaha Don’t speak my life! I did this publicly ON PURPOSE. There’s no coming back… EVAAAAH!

  • Simone

    Thank you so much for this. I’ve been reading your blog and FB posts faithfully for a few months now. I wish I was as courageous as you when I had my experience. The muthaphukka put myself and my family through hell. Even wanted me to give our daughter his other woman’s name. I am so grateful for my daughter though. Forever grateful to my mother for making me leave an abusive situation. His aintshitiness was contagious. Forever thank you NWT!

  • Angelina Yougon’learntoday Boy

    You are awesome!!! This is how you handle yourself when dealing with a fuck boy for real! There’s nothing more dangerous than an angry woman that can write! This is something I would do! 😂😂😂

  • Candace Lyndsey

    I’m so sorry you and your daughter had to go through this during an already hard time I know from your letter your going to be alright I just want to tell you I admire you and I love this letter it’s classy with just a pinch of petty love it you have a wonderful life queen you and your princess

  • Wow. Well, you’re better than me. I wouldn’t have the heart to tear down a woman like this. It looks like he earned it fair and square. Enjoy yourself, Keke.

  • GiElizaberh

    You are strong !!!! Has he seen this yet ??? I’m pretty sure this will make his day lol

  • Noni Williams

    You’re from the “D” so I expect nothing less than the realness that you brought, too bad ole boy didn’t know…..smh..haha. #Detroitgrown #keepinit100

  • Meka

    Those muther……!

  • Tangie M. Whigham

    I read this and thought you were speaking my life. I’m going through a divorce right now. My husband cheated and he and the woman he cheated with have a 9 month old. I understand how you feel. Everyone told me not to marry him as well and I didn’t listen. Keep your head up. You are in my prayers and sorry for the loss of your dad and step-dad.

  • TeeMBrown

    I’ve been there. You’ll be fine. Your kids will be fine and your future will be beautiful. They never know what they’ve got until it’s gone. And that is definitely not your problem. Take care of yourself. Eat, sleep, and surround yourself with people who will love on you. This will pass.

  • Bliss76

    As

  • Ceria Fernandez

    Applause! You are The EPITOME Of A Queen! Keep ya head up sis…..can’t let that crown slip……#YouRock

  • SkylarsAUsomeMom

    This was EVERYTHING SIS!!! I wish i had laid my ex out. He was/is MUCH worse.

  • Cheri Harris

    Sometimes you have to give the less fortunate your old raggedy shit…A small thing to a GIANT!!!

  • Whew!!!! I had to have tres cups of tea to make it through this!!!

    I do hope that others read this and feel more empowered. So often women make cheating only about us and what we could have done differently or how we could have been better wives when in truth, all he had to do was keep his dick in his pants and remember the vows we took.

    Kudos to you sis.

  • Toinette

    I’m sorry you had to experience that. Sometimes beautiful things come from pain. You had to experience this to help someone else, and to get to what God truly has for you. Get ready it’s going to be great! And you don’t have to get him back your advancement and joy you are about experience is going to be enough. Stay strong your time is coming!

  • Toinette

    Funny thing about Facebook is you can be whoever you want to be behind that keyboard, but legally on paper who are you? He didn’t play you he played himself and his new Boo because she’s in love with Keyboard man that he created his representative, wait until the real him shows up. Now handle that

    • SilkOne

      Yep.

  • Nikita Johnson

    Glad u got that out sweetheart, more room for the wonderfulness that’s coming. I know how u feel from experience, wish i could’ve been this strong. Im so happy for u. Love n light sis. Fuck his scummy ass.

  • Lex

    I’m really sorry to hear this. I feel like ur my big sister and u got fcked over and im PISSED. she got the nerve to bring God in it asking him to bless him. Who raised these uncouth bxtches??? https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/ece2906968ccdb5469d1431baee75402775f484906b4cd087531ba094293f76a.gif

  • catgee12

    Hey sis … Onward and upward for you and your daughter … Way to handle it grown woman style … leave the kids to play their reindeer games … Peace and light …

  • Nola Q. Darling

    You’re from the D. Detroit women are the epitome of bad and bourgeois (I swear we had to have invented the term).

    Whenever I write something, it become real but also cathartic.

    Anyone who told you to fight for this sliver of a man truly has you, and the game itself totally fucked up.

    Upward and onwards!

    Ps- why do niggas love to show their ass when you’re burying your daddy? I’m sorry to say that I too, share that experience.

    And I heard my daddy tell me “fuck that nigga” too.

  • miss t-lee

    Gurl…
    sorry you have to go through that. He’s a real P.O.S for real.
    hang in there honey, onward to bigger and better.

  • Scinta Brickell

    Secret to a happy life… Stay off Facebook

  • Jane

    Sis, I’m glad you outed his trifling ass. You do you and trust and believe this meant to happen. He sounds like an albatross around your neck you needed to get rid of. We need an update as to what happens afterwards.

  • LiveLoveMusicMe

    Maaaaaan I’m following your blog just because you may be the realest in the streets. Peace and Blessings on you and your daughter.

  • Miss AJ

    Wow!!! Like wow!!!! I def want to follow your blogs and postings? Do you have a fb page of your postings ppl can follow. This was so deep and profound!!! Like I could relate on soooo many levels. My God, can I ever relate. The strength you have to build up. The fierceness that had to develop for this. This is so powerful and you handled it with grace. I was and hot mess. Confused, lost, and wandering. It took me longer to get there and stay strong. This is beautiful and need I’m glad you shared it

  • Ashley Howard

    When you said “narcissistic sociopath” my mouth dropped open. That’s exactly how I describe my son’s father, except I had to learn the hard and unfortunate way. But omg, everything you described down to his insecurities and false accusations of you, is exactly how my ex was. I’m happy for us both and all women who never have to deal with that bullshit anymore. Thanks for being an inspiration to all women. Peace and blessings to you.❤❤❤❤❤

  • mrsspj

    Big ups to u for letting this just be a hiccup and for not being silent. You did that. This is your moment. Your time. God will get you through it because there is still a possibility but in the end, u win love! U keep your dignity, your strength, and u show that u can’t be knocked down! This was written so amazing and you will empower so many other women to do what you just did and demand the respect and love you deserve!

  • Hola Torres

    Goddess, it is more than obvious que eres una mujer fuerte. You have been blessed with two good men who passed and are now protecting you from the other side. Their love and spirit continues as I am sure you will continue to be 2 steps ahead with dealing with your X. I am a firm believer in karma and I hope it get’s back to you the wrath of karma him and his side chick endure. Keep being beautiful mamita, strong, sassy, smart and allow this hell of a crazy situation to make you stronger and even more fabulous!

  • AllaboutRee Brantley

    Yassssss!!! Prayers for your baby girl’s strength! How men flaunt their sidepieces in front of us, and embarrass the shit out of us like this is sickening. Your writing gives me life. I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers like any other STRONG woman would. Please add me as a friend. We need to stand up and uplift one another in REAL life. Not just on social media. If us women stand together, we can accomplish so much! Be blessed….Sharika Latrell Brantley (FB), ladyvirgo78 (SC), bkbyrika (IG).

  • Destiny T. Williams

    His ass deserved every bit of this. And it seems like he found a better match in her…his bum matches her hoe ass perfectly, truly. My heart goes out to you and Yemi for the loss of your dads but look at it this way…if losing the most important men in your life was difficult, getting rid of bitch ass ex #5 should be a breeze.salute to you!

  • LaMonica Williams

    Sis, I’m so glad you posted this . I’m sick of it being popular and expected of Black Women , and people in general to keep silent when you’ve been wronged for any reason. People with strength are castigated for standing up for themselves and/or exposing the people who’ve wronged them. They’re also labeled as “angry”. bitter,” and “petty” as if they shouldn’t be or don’t have a right to be. The very notion that the wronged party must preserve THEIR dignity is such bullshit ! It’s such bullshit to expect a person to be silent , and essentially absolving the wrongdoer of consequences & repercussions . What kind of Justice is that? You can think you are being “sophisticated” , mature ” & Above it all” .FUCK THAT BULLSHIT! I believe that people who do wrong and hurt others should be called out. FUCK WHAT’S “Frowned Upon” ! Retribution is how Mutha Fuckas learn and understand WHO NOT to fuck with .. Fuck me over if you want to… but I will exact consequences that will resonate FOREVER in your life . FUCK SOME POMPOUS ASS NOTION OF !DIGNITY! You will FEEL ME FOR LIFE! And I love you Sis for not only showing others there is NOTHING PETTY about saying… “Do me wrong, pay the price” . There is NO DIGNITY in allowing harm come to you , and you DO NOTHING!
    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/b5cc7f28f975bb5165d3647ba38d7ce11c8b1ec38afc6012d98bc495f557144f.gif

    • Yaaaaaaaas! This is my ENTIRE position… like, you came for me when my Daddy died….I got NOTHING FOR YOU. FUCK 17 YEARS, FUCK YOUR DEAD MAMA, FUCK THAT HOE AND HER CHIRREN… You are getting this work, today.

  • LaMonica Williams

    The most beautiful thing about this post… is after it’s all said and done..He and She , no matter how many of their friends and family smile in their faces…tell them they ” understand” and tell them to “move on” ….They both know , that everyone they come in contact with..in the back of their minds…. behind those smiles are thinking… https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/7968991b182207f69d9dd1b207aa7c962276fa8b49c7a8da5a76326e900b986e.gif

  • Jennifer

    You’re my shero.

  • Roz

    I honestly was just thinking about you. I’ve followed your comments on VSB (didn’t know you had a blog but I’m in here now!) and as a fellow Naija – I comot cap for you. Sorry you’re going through this. I have no words, just silent strength. Take it easy.

    • 💚💚💚💚💚

    • Eyendasky

      Have you ever been in a scenario like this?

      • Roz

        No, can’t say that I have.

        • Eyendasky

          What makes a woman want share a married man and why be scared to cut him off?

  • C Taborn

    So sorry this happened to you BUT so happy you did what you had to do & let him know your dad didn’t raise no punk lol. Your story reminded me of when my best friend called me crying ’cause her now ex-husband told her he wanted a divorce cause he was in love with one of their mutual friends & had the nerve to say it was partly her fault cause she changed after her dad died. And she had to also put her beloved aunt in a home cause she had early onset dementia (her dad & aunt were all she had growing up) as well as started AA (she had a lot going on). Man if I didn’t live over 2000 miles away I would have put both feet up his behind. BUT she had me as a friend so I told her to “G” up get all her money out the bank and bounce. Even through the divorce this fool tried to play her but again I made her “G” up and he got nothing but his debt and his alcoholism. Now she is happily married to the best man for her and his family is awesome. I don’t know you personally but I’m sending you virtual hugs.

  • The Blogging Queen

    That sorry son of 2 bowledgged bitches. I’m sorry you and your daughter had to go through that, but I’m damned glad to read that you are a strong woman and gave him your entire ass to kiss. F*ck him.

  • Jasmin

    unfortunately I can relate all to well….I came home from work and my ex was just gone…and i never heard from him to this day…he was so insecure…and its not about him leaving it was about the way i felt after he left.

    • I’m sorry, Mami!!¡

      • Jasmin

        Its ok…things fall apart for them to come together even better than before

  • Eva Ta

    When you have your “Divorce Party” make sure you invite me! Peace & energy sister❤💋 …that nigga a BUSTER & Tuna is a curb crawler!

  • Felicia Lynn

    Oh my word! How effin selfish! Seriously! Best wishes to you and your child!!

  • Veronica Williams

    Isn’t it AMAZING when a woman know their WORTH! You was the prize in that relationship and she will soon learn what his value truly is! I am praying and cheering for YOU and your daughter! Parents always know who deserves their child’s love and attention! You and your daughter will be just Fine! I can’t wait to read about all the blessings that are about to happen to your life!!!! One proud woman cheering and claiming blessings in your life!!!

  • Kitty

    Girl that was all the way savage. My hat is off to you. You are my spirit guide 😍
    I thought my shit was savage with my ex husband who got Engaged to married chick while he and I was still married. Telling her all types of lies about me. He met the chick on those online games. I told him it was going to lead In to something else but he didn’t listen. 2012 I started systematically separating everything
    2015 kicked him out of my house. He had the nerve to say everything you bought you keep and everything I bought I keep. Ok my nigga get your washer and dryer. Everything else in this house I bought and paid for even those watches you were flossing in your chat profile pics. 2016 started my divorce process low key dating someone else. January 2017 divorce is officially done
    His boo thang became a lesbian and left him.
    He started taking about working it out .
    No boo boo not happening
    March 11 2017 married my baby
    Ex is salty as fuck

    • March 11th is fucking D Day!

      • Kitty

        it’s sad a lot of these boys wanna use marriage as a crutch. Dudes always think the grass is greener on the other side. You know what if he wants to be with a chick who wears cheap hot pink lipstick looking like a 1970’s blaxploitation prostitute go on super fly.? You know the old saying you can’t turn a hoe in to a housewife? This “F” boy wasn’t looking for a wife or a partner. He was looking for a mother. And for him to accuse you of cheating was a front for his guilt.he was doing dirt and to make himself seem less guilt the threw the guilt on you. But to lie to your child in her face that was fucked up. Adults have issues that’s all cool and fine but to disrespect your child????? And straight lie to her face? What kind of example of a man is he setting for her. It seems your daughter was fortunate to have not one but two string father figures in her life to actually see what a real man is.

        • My daughter KNOWS amazing men.. Although my Daddy and Stepdad were HUGE figures in her life…. She also has a shit ton of uncles and cousins who are just as bomb… I mean so bomb that they were ready to ride down on this nigga…. FROM DETROIT. I mean I’m petty but I wouldn’t want ANY of them to spend a minute in jail for fucking him up. Life is already whooping his ass.

          Here’s the truth. My baby is approaching dating age. I believe in transparency in parenting. This was a situation that I was NOT going to shield her from. She will meet her fair share of “ain’t shit” niggas… and unfortunately, the first one proved to be her father. 17 years- man and this is how he decides to go out?

          My baby will be fine. She loves her dad and I won’t discourage that but she is VERY AWARE that he isn’t the type of dude she will deal with when she approaches relationships. THAT makes me proud as fuck.

          She keeps me strong in my conviction and was an intergal part in my decision to peace him out- instantaneously! That’s my boo!

    • Mochasister

      Lol at the boo Thang becoming a lesbian and dumping him! My mother used to tell me God don’t like ugly; apparently He don’t like stupid and trifling either!

      • Kitty

        Sad thing is the trick tried to act like she didn’t know he was still married. But you were and her husband left her after he got a new job and moved in with his girlfriend.

      • !!!!!!!

  • Daaaaaaaaaamnnnnnnnn.

  • PinkRose

    Be strong Ma, YOU GOT THIS!!!!

  • Val

    *BIGGESTHUGEVER*

    I know you are strong, NWT, but you don’t have to be strong 24 hours a day. Find a shoulder to cry on if you need to. You have people who care about you.

    • I cried today in counseling for the first time since I found out.. my Daddy has been fortifying the fuck outta me.

      Thank you for always being there!

  • Tam

    Hey NWT. I am so sorry you are going through this. HUGGGGSSSSS.

  • Mary Burrell

    This too shall pass you are a resilient peace and blessings Sister.

  • Other_guy13

    Friend…..I’m sorry you going through this. I know we only know each other through VSB but I know you don’t deserve such foolishness esp. with everything you have gone through. He is selfish but this is his loss. You were one of the great people who welcomed me with open arms and we may not have met in person You like so many VSB/VSS are extended family. Here for you NWT 100%

    • VSB/VSS are legit family.. I was trying to deal wth this quietly at first but he wanted to lie to me..so this is why we’re here.

      I did this shit publicly TO ENSURE THAT THERE WOULD BE NO GOING BACK!

      He’s an idiot and one thing I’ve never lacked is options. 😘

      • Other_guy13

        “one thing I’ve never lacked is options.”…no you have not…wait…too soon lol.

        But all jokes aside I’m glad you in good spirits. I’m glad you know your worth love….and that we don’t need to pass the collection plate for bail money….or do we?

        • Not to soon at all…When I say I’M GOOOOOD, believe I’m good.

        • Kas loves Jamaican Breakfast

          Better put some to the side just in case.

          • Other_guy13

            Way ahead of you

        • Mochasister

          I got five on it!

        • I mean.. I don’t have the INTENTION of fucking anybody up BUT you never know… I’m trying to be grown and I do not wish to resort back to my younger days… However, I am NOT above beating the shit outta somebody if they try me.

          I don’t think she is bout dat life. She’s heard about me.. I’m sure. lmao

          • Rosshetere Freeny

            Neither one of them is worth it. Damn shame women are so desperate they have to go sleep around with a married man. And then have the nerves to be hurt when the nigga start messing around on them. The way I see it lame ass men don’t deserve a good women as you can see they don’t know what to do with them. You was to much for him he wasn’t on your level so he had to level down to a chick who is as lame as his ass. And then they don’t see there playing Russian Roulette with their spouse life. I’m gon stopp now because I Don turned into a damn dragon ready spit fire out on a nigga

          • Kitty

            Girl I know when you mean. It’s hard not to backslide.

      • Tam

        A lot of these people convince themselves that you can not live without them, and they are your only option

        • Yeah… that ain’t my life..I’m definitely about putting myself first.

        • That is not my portion. Lol

          • Tam

            I can’t see you pining. Hugs my friend.

  • LMNOP

    I’m so sorry he did this to you while you were grieving.

    You are an amazing person. You are beautiful, smart, funny, and if he’s stupid enough to throw that away, fuck him. But I am really sorry you and your daughter have to deal with this, especially after losing your father and stepfather.

    This is such a great response though. It’s like the shether of breakups. Well done, NWT, well done.

    • ❤❤❤❤ Thank you so much.. I’m ok though… them? Not so much. These innanetz are whooping their asses!😂😂😂😂

  • You didnt deserve one iota of this sh*t right here. Without knowing you, the vibe I get is that you’re a stand up sista, who has no problem keeping real and righteous. Forget this niqqa, may he fall down a f*ckin well somewhere, while hes tied with a rope to that other stank jawnn. You gon be alright. Might take a minute, but you gon be alright. Fools like him help you see other BS clearer.
    P.s. I’m salty cause he ditched on the youngin too. Foul.

    • Tam

      That pizzes me off especially when you going be nice “step” kids

    • That’s what fucked me up the most…. like SHE NEEDS YOU. And you’re worried about somebody’s bastards? Foh.

      • Nothing good will come to him, I swear to you. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

  • Michelle is my First Lady

    ❤❤❤

  • BrothasKeeper

    Sis! 😕I’m sorry.

    He and his thot are NOT representative of all Pisceans.

    • Don’t be. 😍

    • PinkRose

      Those fish swim 2 different ways tho………….

      • BrothasKeeper

        *sigh* they do. These two are an embarrassment. The bad thing about us fish is that whether good or evil, we’re perfectionists.

  • cakes_and_pies

    I hope he gets the clap and his credit score falls to the low 400s.

    • PinkRose

      ROTFL!!!

    • Mochasister

      Daaaaayuum! The credit score not the clap! ;^)

    • How did I miss this? lmao

  • BatmansExWife

    VSS, I’m so sorry, and just shocked that you’re going through this. This dude is a piece of ish and so is the girl. I’m sorry he did this to you and your daughter.

    This is a strong and powerful statement that you sent. *Biggest and warmest hug to you*

  • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

    He certainly isn’t a real man. He’s a lowlife.

  • Mochasister

    Negra, I am truly sorry for all that you and your daughter have been going through. I was just wondering where you had been on VSB. I know it may not feel like it now, but one day your soul will look back and wonder how you made it over. I know you probably feel like cutting him in the eyelid and busting his head down to the white meat, but trust and believe he’s going to mess himself up way more than you ever could. Take it one day at time. Cry when you have to. Scream if you have to. It’s ok to not always feel strong. Even though I know you are. I will be praying for you and your daughter. You gon’ be all right. So will your daughter.

    • Thank you, sis!! I missed my VSB fam so much… I was getting myself together to release this… I had to clear it through my daughter first though… so yeah I’m back.. and muthafucking better than EVAAAAAAAH! LMAO

  • Tamika Luster

    I am so sorry this happened to you and your daughter. Trust and believe you are not by yourself. If I were to tell my story it would be on lifetime! Look at it this way. This was a blessing in disguise. This low life chix just took your trash out for you. Believe me your trash is “Not” her treasure! Oh this hurts and it will take time to get over it,but you will be fine. Just know this they will never be comfortable with each other because this is a ill gotten gain. Peace to you my sister keep your head up!

    • I appreciate your words of encouragement…I’m LEGIT GOOD.. AIN’T LOST A WINK OF SLEEP. I don’t do cheaters at all. I’m sure HE can use your words though.

  • Lea Thrace

    May every sock he ever wears be slightly rotated just enough to be annoying and uncomfortable.
    May both sides of his pillow be forever warm.
    May he always step in a wet spot after putting on fresh socks.
    May every parking space he sees in the distance turn out to be occupied by a motorcycle or a cart carousel.
    May he wake up every day, step out of bed, and onto small legos.
    May he unknowingly have papercuts every time he has to handle citrus fruits or cleaning products.

    I dont really know you other than what I see on VSB (and lurking on your blog). But you a part of the community so you fam. You need bail money, just ask. I also have good lawyer contacts.

  • Cancerianwoman

    Best line (amongst many) is your daddy’s fuck that ni&&er … cause I heard my daddy say that exact thing last time I ever cried over a wayward man. Thanks for sharing this life moment. Very empowering and freeing x

  • Calvin

    * Sing in your best Munchkin voice*

    Ding, dong, the b I t c h is gone, the bit ch is gone, the bitc h is gone!
    Ding dong, the useless bit ch is goooonnnne!

    But seriously, “he’d rather be taken to court for child support rather than forming an agreement OUTSIDE OF COURT.” And he’s broke??!? The mind-boggling stupidity of some people…

    • I can’t make this shit up. I legit sent him a text like hey.. “this is what I’m asking for when you get paid…you can give it to me or our daughter. Just be on time. I prefer to keep it out of court and I said not responding doesn’t mean that I won’t move forward.”

      He told me to move forward…Bruh!! How are YOU salty and you’re the one that brought this on?

  • Shemikwa Harmon

    I hate you’re going through this but I tell you, I know you’re going to be okay. Although there’s hurt in this post there is more strength and I know your dad is looking down on you saying “Now that’s MY girl”. Many prayers for you and your daughter. Your King is out there. You will be treated as a queen and your daughter as your princess. God Willing.

    • Honestly, what hurts is the fact that he did this when my Daddy passed. So this was a man that he says he loved and respected and then he does some fuck shit in the moment we need him most?

      THAT IS UNFORGIVABLE. Any love I had for him went right out the door. He tried to snatch my life away from me and it wasn’t necessary so NOW- you get what the anybody else who’d cross would get…DUST.

  • Nortey

    You are amazing. Take some days with your kids and forget abt that sucka.

  • jannah zakee

    Good Afternoon Sis,
    I too know of you from the VSB blog. The piece you wrote about virtual friends really touched my heart. I pray for you strength, love, patience & healing. You will be ok. And thank God for showing you who that piece of crap was. I’m glad you know you deserve better.

    Be well

    • <3 VSB is showing out today! Damn, I LOVE Y'ALL… That's my word!

  • Fleet

    Good release…. Great release… now let that go… for your health let it go (different from letting it slide) I hope your heart finds the peace and love it deserves, Queen!

  • Numbah5

    I needed a few days to process and its not even happening to me…I’m still astounded by the callousness people can show to the one’s they claim they love…I’m glad you and your baby are good…And dust to ashy, lying fcuk bois, who get in their feelings when being a sh!thead is not enough…Blessings dear heart!

    • Hi sis!! It’s weird because folks are like you’re just mad he moved on… Real talk. IDGAF about that. We are talking about 17 years… at the VERY LEAST- that warranted a conversation. He could’ve been banging her bangs out 3 times a day but when my Daddy died.. NIGGA SHOW UP! That’s what’s unforgivable for me. ANd when I say..I WILL NEVER FORGIVE HIM FOR THAT. I MEAN THAT SHIT FROM MY SOUL. He could be dying from terminal cancer and homeless in the street and I’d kick him in the face while passing him. Call it bitter, petty or shitty… DON’T FUCKING CROSS ME.

      Now he;s all embarrassed and had the balls to tell my child.. YOUR MOMS COULD HAVE DONE THIS ANOTHER WAY….. NIGGA…

      https://m.popkey.co/e5eb8d/KMA4p.gif

    • <3

  • MY NIGGA!!! Yes! Legit, I’m not sweating this. I can deal with a lot in my marriage. INFIDELITY IS MY DEALBREAKER. We can’t talk ever! Fuck outta here. I will never fuck with him again and then my Daddy died and you did it? He is lucky we have a child… So I’ve been working out and feeling myself… and apparently, I’m exuding something because men are falling at my feet…I was blessed with the gift of not holding on to ties. Cross me.. You’re done and I ain’t looking back.

    There’s a lot going on in my life that’s not ALL bad rest assured… I have been smiling A LOT. 😀

  • This…this is a dragging. I’m saving this for when my son and daughter get older. 😂

  • C’…Scorpio

    My “shock and awe” face may have just become permanent. It is wonderful to see the strength and poise that you’ve displayed while dealing with your fathers’ passing (my condolences) and the actions of ________________.
    After this no other thought of dip$h!ts (except in relation to daughter) should be given. Your humor/strength/method for dealing with this is contagious. Thank you for showing another way to deal with heartache and betrayal.

  • Jojobee

    Not all heroes wear capes. Gurl you gave me life with this. Can you hear me? I went through this myself and never got over it. You got me hyped with all the things I wish that I said. You dragged him to filth and YASSS. Your daughter knows her mama is a Queen and she is a princess. Keep ya head up so your crown don’t tilt. Inspiration to all women. Let’s. Get. This. Money. Have a blessed day from your sista from another mother . We with you.

  • Love Heals

    Sister and Queen, that was amazing. I am in awe of the power, beauty, self-love/empowerment in that letter all while rightly dragging him for filth with flair, style and elegance.Phenomenal. You had me hearing Silvestre Dangond’s “Ya no me duele mas” (the Farruko remix version) as a celebration soundtrack, though this was waaaay more potent. Talk about inspirational AND impressive. Thank you for sharing that with us. If he thinks he’s in his feelings now it’ll be something when in the future he sees you joyfully partnered with a worthy man who is your complement in every way. May continued blessings be with you and your daughter. Amen. Amin. Amn. Ashe.

    • 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
      This is everything!!

      • Love Heals

        It’s an honor to witness your gift(s) and strength even from afar.

  • Love Heals

    I also offer sincerest condolences on the transition of your dear father whose love and support are still nurturing you in this life. Damirifa due.

  • David Fenelus

    😲 WOW 😲

  • TMcCali

    Wow. I don’t know you, but I admire your strength. I wish there were more women who were ok walking away. Blessings.

  • sabagrace

    Fam, I’ve been lurkin on VSB forever and your comments bring me LIFE so I found your blog. Adding my voice to the chorus of FUCK that niqqa, he is so clearly undeserving of a boss b*tch like you. Sending love and light!!

  • SashMarguerite

    🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Hey this is Sasha of @afrolatinxofnyc (IG) and I just gotta say my condolences for your Pops. Karma is coming for the side piece whose head is in the clouds and your messy ex husband and they’re gonna be out in these streets looking hella foolish. I ❤️ this letter the drag was real.

  • NurseKat13

    I’m so sorry about the loss of your father and stepfather. My dad died of Leukemia when I was 16 and there is still a giant hole in my heart that will never leave. And I’m sorry your husband is a piece of shit 😢. My ex replaced me and had a new wife and baby fairly quickly after our divorce( as I predicted because he’s a Malignant Narcissist) And he stole my son and legally got away with it for a while. But Karma has not been good to him. His 3rd wife kicked him out. And now he just had a shitty little house in Baltimore. His wife and I are now friends and I found a lot. He can’t keep a job ( when we were married he was a VP of a Software Company, with only a high school education. I wrote, edited spellchecked his business emails for years and he would have never climbed so high without me) because he has a felony assault on his record for throwing his wife through a glass table. So Mr Bigshot( used to make 350K a year drove a BMW M3 and 645) has nothing. Oh and it’s his birthday today. I went to a Tarot Reader a few years back. She told me to pick out a card representing he and I. I knew he would end up The Hanged Man ( and it was!) and Inwas the King of Swords. As I’m sure you know, your husband is only going to sink lower and lower. I’ve just discovered your blog and I love ❤️ it. Blessings to you and your daughter 🌹

  • Lex

    You good boo?

    • I am.. thank you for asking.

    • I am…. that was his dumb ass son trying it…. I showed him grace because he’s a BOY. but he also deleted his comment butNOT BEFORE I screenshot it! lmao

  • Albert Pillot

    Watch how you speak about MY father cause I could get real disrespectful ma 💯 trying to embarrass somebody on their birthday is childish remember this post b❗️

    • Little boy… you may want to follow your own advice. I’ve seen your temper tantrums when you don’t get your way. I’ve seen and heard about how disrespectful you are FROM YOUR FATHER. I’m not your “Ma” or “b”. Watch your mouth talking to me. Don’t you EVER in your life act or address me like you’re my peer.

      You could get real disrespectful? I wish you would. You’re the perfect example of what happens when children aren’t RAISED. You need to mind your business.

  • Tiana Jeane’

    I will light a candle for your healing and comfort this is so fucked up and my ex cheated while I was grieving 2 losses as well.

    • I appreciate you, babe! I’m ok though.. Don’t worry about me… I’m good! Trust! 😉

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